Monday, November 3, 2014

Last night I had a date.  It was a total flop.  Total and complete flop.  I don't know why I even went but I did, dinner and a drink.  There was no spark, no interest, nothing.  It was like I would rather have sat across from a cardboard cutout of someone.  Sigh.  Why did I go?  I have no idea.  I guess I was just lonely and wanted company.  I should stay on the ship.  Really I should.  Sometimes I think there is nothing for me here, but on the ships it is different.  I am alive there.  

Sorry that's all I've got today.  Come back tomorrow and I shall be recovered from this.  I hope.  


  1. Well, that stinks about the date. As I've said before, you just keep doing what you love and someone who loves those very same things that you love will just show up one fine day and *boom* sparks all over the place. You'll see.

    big hugs xoxo

  2. You have to kiss a bunch of frogs to find a prince. I always thought that when a date didn't go well it was moving me towards one that would. I learned something or met someone or found a nice place to go again with someone else. Sending a hug.

  3. I guess that kiss-a-lot-toads-to-find-a-prince rule applies in our age bracket as well. Take comfort in the fact that he probably felt just as awkward in the dating scene as you did. As widows I feel we have to decide if we're running to something or running from something because that is a huge factor in how we view the outcome.

  4. All I can say is I've been there. And it happens. There will be more flopped dates. But you know what, you have to have a flop or two to recognize and appreciate a great date when it comes along.

    You will be ok. It is not at all a reflection on you when there is no connection to another human being. It's just like everything in life, we all weren't meant to get along, or life would be boring. No spark, just means you weren't meant to be. But how would you know if you don't try.

    Don't give up. Be happy, be you. Follow your instinct.

  5. After reading your blog this morning Bee, there isn't much I can say other the get off the floor and try again, and again, and again etc. Just remember my beautiful friend, cruising is fun but it isn't reality. I know. After my cruise I want to go right back because it's so much fun. Life isn't really fun but it's reality. You're lonely, I get that but look at all the things that you have going for you. I ONLY go on a cruise once a year but ............... Now get off of your b*** and enjoy life for what it is, YOU! I love you and will always stand by you. Now I have to go to town and get something or nothing, I don't know. See ya my wonderful lovely friend.


  6. Bee, I think Paul 's right. The ship is a more relaxed place and very romantic. Use your good sense. You know there's nothing says you can't ask someone out yourself. Or just to a play or dinner. There are phonies out there in every age group, be true to yourself. xoxo,Susie

  7. Ciao Bee!
    One bad evening is not so tragical, today you have this just in your past...look at the future, it will offer you new interesting and positive experiences!

    Big hugs, honey!!!

  8. You're new at this honey. You're taking baby steps. You'll find someone at some point. Just let it happen naturally. It's not easy. I know.

    Have a fabulous day honey. Big hugs to you and my best to Roche. :)

  9. I'm sorry that your date was a flop! Maybe he was nervous? Maybe he is a dud. Hugs to you.

    By the way, I loooove the new hair do.


  10. My friend (who reminds me of you, she is a hoot ) wanted to find a friend to go out and have dinners, a show or a movie. She finally found someone but one of her "best" dates was a man whose whole life was ballroom dancing and clipping coupons. Now she likes to dance but a coupon has never crossed her hands. She loves to shop !
    Needless to say he was not a good match.

    cheers, parsnip

  11. Eh, it's something to do. Sorry it was blah. Next time make funny faces at them when they get dull. That will keep the duds guessing. Hugs dear. Maybe you should work on a ship? Go to travel school?

  12. Dearest Bee,
    Being alone can be achingly lonely at times, especially when you have known real love with someone you enjoy being with like you did with Sarge.
    You have done and do everything you possibly can to enjoy life on your own.
    Sometimes there are going to be blue days, and blue times.
    You are experiencing dating - and a lot of times it is a disappointment.
    sending you hugs, love, and emotional cuddles.
    Your friend,

  13. Sweetie, stuff happens. You never know till you try, and he was Mr. Wrong. Better luck next time. Don't give up. It takes practice and patience.

    Big hugs, honey...

  14. You are going through what a lot of us at a certain age have experienced. I find it so much better to have gotten to the place where I am very happy and comfortable with being all by myself. Besides--I don't want some old man to have to take care off! and that's what most of them, at a certain age, are looking for. Watch out for fakes--they are around too.

  15. I thought I commented yesterday but it seems to have disappeared. Or maybe the phone rang and I never got back to it! In reading over the other posts I see you got lots of good advice. I especially like the idea of viewing it as moving you on to something better. Hang in there. Hugs!


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