Sunday, July 15, 2012

Well meaning friends...

Sigh... I grow so weary of people trying to tell me what to do.  I know they mean well but I'm not really one to take direction easily.  Especially when I have my own agenda, namely to get fit and lose weight and I have been doing pretty danged good at it too if I say so myself.  Yesterday was a day for people to "help".  

You know the comments, "you look wonderful but should you be eating that?".  (There is always a but!)  Yes I should, I know very well what to eat and how much, and I have been doing just that for nine months now, thank you very much.  

And they then ask me how much weight I have lost.  I'm not sure I like this either.  Now I tell y'all these things all the time but to ask a woman how much weight she lost?  Somehow I don't like that either.

I talked to the duck about this and asked him if it bothered him when people said things like this.  He said he didn't mind it, that he just took it as they were being friendly and helpful.  I'm trying to do the same but it's not as easy for me somehow.  I don't know why.  Maybe I am too sensitive.  I hope not.

That reminds me (I have no idea why but it does), have you tried Amy's Light and Lean Entrees?  They are very good.  They look small but are filling and organic too.  Lots of variety.  That's what I have been going to when I don't want to cook.  Mostly I do cook though but the Amy's are not a bad substitute.  Much better than the other kinds I think.

Today will take me back to the Walmart with the duck on our weekly jaunt.  Hopefully it won't be too bad.  I don't need a lot because I got a good bit at the fruit stand but I still need to go.  

Hope your Sunday is totally tits.  I know mine will be!


  1. Most of the time when someone asks me a question that is none of their business or just plain rude...I either act like I didn't hear them, or give them the raised eyebrow look ! I know that is rude of me but, hey, they started it ! Your picture is lovely.


  2. So many people have no manners anymore or just don't think !
    I hope what Duck said is true maybe they are just interested and happy for you ? Probably jealous is more like it !
    You could do what Dear Abby says turn the question back to them or ask why would that be so important to them.
    I think you look wonderful.

    cheers, parsnip

  3. Maybe it's a guy thing that Chuck doesn't mind people "helping.". Since I did the surgical thing, people constantly jumped on me for not dieting instead. I had dieted - all my friggin' life! And, because I did the surgery thing I lost a lot, fast. People didn't like that either. I thought if I heard just one more person tell me that I was losing too much weight, I was gonna go to jail! Sensitive? Maybe, but I think a lot of people lack common sense and good manners!!!
    All the advice columnists say to turn it back on the clods, and say something to the effect of "Why does that bother you?". Hang in there cuz you're doing great!!!!!

  4. I think people are well meaning about your weight loss and maybe slightly envious because you have done so well Bee. :)

  5. Again.. I would blink, blink, and then LOL, leaving them to assume I thought it was merely a rhetorical question that I found amusing and leave it at that. Bless their hearts.

    If you and the duck picked up my stuff for me then I wouldn't have to go. Bugger.

    Have a lovely day! big hugs xoxo

  6. Buongiorno!

    Each one should know what to do, to choise...without interferences!
    You did a great work, and you can be very (or much?) satisfied!
    I Had a lovely morning with sister Anna and two friends, it begins to be a normal Sunday!

    Have a lovely Sunday!

    Big hugs!

  7. I just answer their questions. I get a lot, after my hip surgery, about "are you supposed to be doing that?" "Are you walking enough." or "what do you mean you can't do that yet? My neighbor had that surgery and was jogging after two months." Whatever! BUT when they say, "Boy, you've really lost weight. Your clothes are hanging on you. Are you sure you are eating right?" I just say, "Yeah I have. Isn't it cool? I'm probably not eating right, but...oh well!"

  8. Auntie Bees we fink yoo look mah voo loss!
    Happy Sunday and here's our daily fuzzy hug

  9. They are all just jealous of your fabulous dieting success. We all know what a feat it is. Just tell them to mind their own beeswax!

  10. Hi ya Bee. Just got back from Port Stanley after two days of rest and relaxation from our anniversary. It was a nice place, the food was OK and we had two days of walking. Took and short train ride to St. Thomas and back. and saw a cute play called " Sexy Pajamas ". We laughed a great deal. It was right off the lake, nice cool breeze. Now back to normal.
    Your photo is fantastic. You are quite a doll my friend. See you later.


  11. You certainly don't have to answer these questions. No you don't. You could give them that Empress Bee smile of yours and then change the subject. That would shut them up once and for all. You do what you want when you want to do it.

    Have a terrific day honey. Big hugs. :)

  12. Bee, I really try to help you stay encouraged, because I know losing weight isn't easy by any means. I say of rude people sometimes mind do they walk with that big set? Some people call it nerve..but there's a time it's just blasted rudeness. Turn and shake your skinny butt in their faces. LOL.xoxo, Susie

  13. hope you got lots of goodies and got to spend some good quality time with the Duck. He's a such a good support for you. So glad he's back in your life. :-)

    That makes me smile.

  14. The road to hell is paved with well meaning people.

  15. The Emptess answers to no one. Srsly.

    Big hugs from the road, honey...

  16. I get really sensitive about being asked about my "foreign" accent all the time. It does get annoying to have to answer it all.the. time :)
    And no, they should not be asking how much you lost ;)
    Hugs from muggy Ohio,

  17. People are just rude! I gained 30 pounds over the winter and it is very difficult to lose it.

    Good luck with everything!

  18. Relate very weel to this, Bee. I can't stand to be rtold what to do either. Very irritating.
    If I ASK what to do, that's different.
    Otherwise, just shut up and compliment me:)

    You've been doing great on your own, you don't need their suggestions to figure out what works for you - you're consistently DOING it already.

    I don't mind people asking me how much I've lost - but I'm not private that way. They probably are impressed, and maybe it even motivates them.


  19. Hit em with some Forest Gump.When they ask you how much you lost,say "A LOT, and that's all I have to say about that"

  20. PS.I eat Amy's too.I love the Indian dishes

  21. I hate telling people when I'm on a diet. I feel like they start watching everything I put into my mouth.

  22. Some people can be so ignorant! Rude, I say.

    You look great in the photo here, Bee. Congrats on sticking to all the dieting and exercise for nine months. It shows!

  23. I agree, it's rude to point things out and ask such personal questions. People like that have their own agenda and I really kind of doubt being helpful is on their to-do lists.

  24. i like some of amy's frozen meals. mostly the mexican stuff and i get corn chips and eat it like a dip for dinner. and mostly when matt is gone.

    you look great in that picture! so tan!


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