Well it's Monday again. I hope we all have a fabulous new week. Better than the last one for sure.
So here goes... I found out after six months that my WCK is married. Liar liar pants on fire. Gullible? That's me. He could only see me one weekday a week. No nights. No weekends. Clue? Yes. Did I realize it? Nope. Couldn't take me out to a nice place. Said it was just so nice to stay in. Uh huh.
So I am naive and dumb beyond belief. The one good thing I suppose is that I have learned a good lesson and I shall move on. Just not yet...
Uh oh, I was afraid it was him. The jerk! He does not deserve you, my friend. And you deserve WAAAY better than someone who would lie to you and deceive you. You had fun with him but now that you know his true situation it is time to (figuratively) kiss that scumbag goodbye. Betrayal of your confidence is a hard thing to go through. Sending you some extra hugs tonight!
ReplyDeleteBee, you might be the farthest thing from dumb I've ever seen. You got your hopes up, had a good time, and now it's time to look elsewhere. (The offer still stands. I'll come down there and beat him up. Hoping you feel my hugs.) What do we tell our kids? Focus on what you enjoy and you'll find someone who enjoys the same thing. That means do stuff outside your condo community, volunteer work or something. Or maybe it means you need to take me on a cruise! LOL!
ReplyDeleteBee, you might be the farthest thing from dumb I've ever seen. You got your hopes up, had a good time, and now it's time to look elsewhere. (The offer still stands. I'll come down there and beat him up. Hoping you feel my hugs.) What do we tell our kids? Focus on what you enjoy and you'll find someone who enjoys the same thing. That means do stuff outside your condo community, volunteer work or something. Or maybe it means you need to take me on a cruise! LOL!
ReplyDeleteI think that I warned you about this at first--because he was always far away and couldn't get to see you very often. BUT--what the heck? It's your first time dating since you were young. How were you to know? I've been single a lot longer than you have, so I guess I'm not quite as trustful. Chalk it up to a lesson learned, next time you will be just a wee bit less trusting, until you find out the real deal. Life is all about lessons learned and what we do with them. No wonder he didn't want his picture posted. You'll be fine! Go get 'em, Sweetie!!
ReplyDeleteI, too, warned you about this at the beginning. He couldn't see you very often, didn't take you anywhere, and didn't want his picture posted. I suggested he had another life or maybe a wife, but you were upset with me for saying it. I'm so glad it is over and now you can move on to better things. You deserve so much better than that and I know will find someone who is just right for you.. We all love you Bee!! Hugs from Dee
ReplyDeleteWell, bugger. I was afraid of that... I just hate that anybody hurt you that way. Jerk. Off with his head.
ReplyDeleteIt's a new day and a brand new week and everything wonderful is possible. Get out there and get you some of that shat.
big hugs xoxo
These were my exact concerns as well. Dang it. OK, tough lesson but perhaps a good lesson in the long run. Onward and upward dear Miss Bee. It will hurt/disappoint for awhile, but there is someone out there that is deserving of you and all your specialness and sparkle. I am sending many hugs.
ReplyDeleteWhen you told us some months ago that he didn't want you to post pictures I thought of that. When he was away and only came for one day, it crossed my mind more than one time. You are a survivor from worst things you have come out. Stick to your friends.
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately I am a skeptic. It's is not a nice trait to have so I try not to share my fears. I also believe you to be an intelligent women so I wasn't worried for you. I am however curious as to how you found out about WCK being married. Will you share?
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to hear about the betrayal by WCK. I have been there and that feeling really STINGS. May the feeling pass quickly. It is just the most terribly consuming feeling. I know you must be grateful for the dear friends you have around you who are GOOD and caring men. When I read this, I just wanted to scream for you! DAMN!
ReplyDeleteI suspected things weren't right with him from the beginning when he wouldn't let you put his photo on line. Who does that other than someone with something to hide? And there were other clues others above have mentioned. But it's HIS shame, not yours. Before I was married, I was in the dating scene for ten years and you learn to pick up on little the things and trust your instincts.
ReplyDeleteOh, well, Bee, you've survived much worse things in life, I'm sure, and all you can do now is autopsy and move on wiser for the experience, knowing you are surrounded by people who care about you. I, too, am curious how you found out and also how you met him in the first place.
So sorry Bee. You are amazing woman who does not need people like him in your life. Life is good and you have loyal friends to lean on. Live on and be blessed.
ReplyDeleteMaryC
Pox on him!!!!! Hate that this happened to you. You deserve so much better. Shake it off, learn from it and move on. Do not blame yourself!!! Very proud of you for putting yourself out there and hope this doesn't stop you from being HAPPY!!!
ReplyDeleteAnd dang it!! The last thing you need right now is "I told you so's". Not happy to see so many of those in your comments right now. Knock it off folks!!!!
DeleteAgreed! In someone's time of distress, to be an "I told you so"? Sheesh. LAST thing they need to hear.
DeleteHugs to you Bee! You will be fine. You are the best! Don't let this get you down!
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Lynn
I'm so sorry this happened to you. I didn't think one way or another, but I'm so far away. I know you are hurt and that makes me hurt too. May Karma bite him in the behind.
ReplyDeleteHave a fabulous day honey and I too want to know how you found out. Big hugs to you and my very best to Roche. ♥♥♥
I'm really sorry to hear the news, Bee. What a total scoundrel he is! Be glad you weren't deeply involved. How did you find out? Did he confess? I would have a modicum of respect for him if he told you the truth. People are so weird today. It's like a free-for-all with regards to how mean and jerky people can get.
ReplyDeleteYou'll be fine, Bee. You have a great attitude and your humor will get you through this. Plus you have terrific friends that love you!
Cate
There is not much more to say that these friends have said already. Friends love you Bee and that it's all that you need. You won over cancer and you'll win over this last situation. One of your friends said, go on a cruise to free your mind & heart. Gorgeous one you'll climb this mountain and come down on the over side and begin again. I know you can. You are a winner. Be strong my friend, never let a negative man put you down. There are still many positive man around who would love a strong, beautiful, intelligent, brilliant lady like you. Though a 1000 miles away my heart is right next to you my giving you strength. See ya Bee.
ReplyDeleteCruisin Paul
Bee, you are a trusting soul, not dumb, so don't even feel that way. This guy is a WCLoser, and will get his just rewards some day. Double pox on him! Kicked to the curb.
ReplyDeleteSending you extra hugs, honey...
Wow, your readers are very "I told you so" today aren't they? As a true girlfriend , I'll say ...he sucks and karma will catch up with him. Hugs to you. Live and learn. So sorry. Xoxo
ReplyDeleteMiss Bee we are sending purrs to you and we can go and put the power of the paw & claw on WCK if you want us to! We love you.
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I don't think we, "I told you so's" were being mean to you. We were all very concerned for you, because probably some of us, "I told you so's" have been there and had the same or similar experience and we so didn't want you to go through that. So now, you've joined our group and like us, you've learned a hard lesson. One that will equip you with better knowledge to weed out the, "something doesn't feel right" next time. You'll be fine, Hon.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry this happened. Karma will eventually come around to get him. Hugs to you!
ReplyDeleteClair
I'm so sorry this happened to you. You are not stupid at all, dont think that way. Glad you posted his pic, as he deserves to be known for the cheat and liar he is. So he is cheating on a dying wife? My God, how low can a man go? I'm so glad you have many loving friends around you to help you get thru this. My single girlfriends tell me they always do internet investigations on anyone they are dating, that nowadays you can Google people, check their Facebook's, even background checks are available to be run online from many People search sites. I think these are excellent tools available to women and men dating in this day and age. They can help save a lot of heartache. <<>>
ReplyDelete--Luna
Miss Bee,
ReplyDeleteWhat a terrible person! I hate to hear he did this to you. You are such a wonderful, classy lady.....he did not deserve you. Your GAIN....His loss. He is a terrible jerk butt.
Keep smiling Miss Bee! 😄 🌺 🌞 🎈 ❤ 👍